How I roll.
Just barely possible


This afternoon found me across town, taking Max to be evaluated by the school district audiologist. He'd apparently failed two previous hearing tests, so she wanted him in her office, in her soundproof box. Which sounds a little menacing, now that I think of it. Anyhow, she wanted to test him with no distractions to be sure of what was going on. 

As she was leading him into her soundproof room, I asked if I should come in too. She said it was up to me, so let me answer that question for you, if you are ever left to decide it by your own audiologist: No. You do not want to go in the room with your child. It is not only soundproof, it is pretty much airless. And as you sit there, with the temperature steadily rising, your job is to not make any noise at all. And your phone must be off. 

Max had headphones on, and the audiologist was talking to him, but all I could hear was him responding to her with random words, like he'd suddenly caught Tourette's from her or something. "Baseball," he said, "ice cream. Hot dog." I concentrated on not making noise and wondered if anyone ever fainted in the soundproof, airless room. Then I tried not to think about that, because it was SO QUIET in there (whenever Max wasn't speaking), that I was a little nervous that she could actually hear what I was thinking. Hey, it was hot, okay?

What I tried to do, instead, was think about all the other things I should really be doing. Clay's mom arrives tomorrow, so of course I have to plan to clean All The Things, even though she would never worry one bit about what my house looks like because she's A) not that kind of person and B) the mother of six grown kids herself. Also, I never get it all done anyhow. So I don't know why I do that. But I do.

Besides that, Tre's graduation is Thursday, and I have to pick up Kate so she can come with us, and Raphael has an Honor Band concert on Sunday, so that means extra rehearsals this week. And Max is leaving for a three day school trip on Monday, fertheloveapete. 

This line of thought was making me consider hyperventilating, which I don't think would be perfectly silent, so I switched to thinking about other things. Like all the previous medical tests Max has had that turned out to be nothing. Like the ultrasound of his heart. Heh. Goober. And just a few years ago he had an EEG, and that was tickety-boo also. Hey, remember when I tried to convince everyone to say tickety-boo? Don't you think it's time you people got on that?

Well, eventually she finished, and released us from the booth (seriously, it looked just like a restaurant freezer from the outside. Airless). She told us to have a seat, and she'd be right over to explain the results.

Then she sat down with her papers and said that Max has a mild but significant hearing loss.

She said lots of things after that, but I just sort of looked at her and tried to process what she'd said. He might need hearing aids. He could hear all the sounds, but certain speech noises in particular are hard for him to decipher, making listening a mentally fatiguing job for him. He would need accommodation in the classroom. He needs to see an ear specialist. 

For a few minutes he wasn't the only one having a hard time deciphering speech. I looked at her and nodded and failed to assimilate one word for a few minutes. There's nothing wrong with Max. He talked early! His enunciation has always been fine. He's a MUSICIAN, for goodness' sake!

I decided, sitting there, that I wouldn't be sorry that I'd homeschooled him. This would have been caught earlier if I had, but then again it wasn't a problem until he was in a classroom. Nope. Not going to do that.

I guess what I'm going to do is navigate the tasks ahead of me. I'm going to find the specialist he needs to see and make the appointments and figure it out. I'm not going to lie, I'm somewhat stunned. 

I guess what we'll do is just whatever is next.


Karen V

I know you guys will figure out the best course of action for him. Hugs, because I don't really know what to say either...


That kind of news requires such an adjustment. I have to give it a bandaid treatment---i.e., cover it up while I get used to the fact that something has occurred, and peek at it later after I've adjusted.


I know you didn't ask, but we went to Dr. Jaskunas at Colorado ENT right next to Parker Adventist. My niece also went there and he's great.


Also, I'm sorry. And you didn't do anything wrong.


mild but significant?? it has to be one or the other.


Maybe I got the wording wrong. What I understood was that it is a mild hearing loss. However, the register thats affected has significant impact on his ability to decode certain speech sounds. Does that make any more sense? Its not a significant loss, its not even a moderate loss. But the impact is (probably) something that well have to deal with. Must get more info from the specialist. 


Also, I used apostrophes in that last comment that did not come through. Just so you all know. Because I know it matters.


Oh it is SO SO HARD to not automatically assign ourselves blame or question what we may have not done wrong.
I'm stunned with you. I'm facing a stunner too which I will fill you in on when I FINALLY reply to your last email because, as usual, my life right now reads like your first few paragraphs of a BILLION THINGS HAPPENING AT ONCE and my clone is apparently not yet ready so I am facing the daunting task of figuring out HOW THE HECK I am EVER going to be able to get through the next three weeks?!?!?!
And as you can see from my utter lack of punctuation and grammar it simply does NOT matter to me lol
Great big hugs girlfriend!


I remember being told by Caeden's day care teacher that she thought he had a major hearing problem. She was right. It was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through, probably because of what I had been through with my mother and her hearing disabilities. Hearing was such a precious thing in my family. And, I can tell you that as hard as that time was, we saw the specialist, had the surgery (2 more since) and he is hearing very, very well! He is now aware of when something changes and lets me know immediately. There is so much they can do to improve things in that conversational range (I am guessing that is his range of loss by your comments). Have faith and know I'm here for you!!! Max is amazing and will get through this as will you! HUGS!

Jan in Norman, OK

Actually, hearing loss among musicians is not all that unusual. Not just rock musicians but wind band and orchestral musicians, also. There are companies that make customized ear protection for musicians.

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