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Pride goeth before a spit up

The truth? Over the last few years I've heard story after story about babies with reflux, and I...well, I was skeptical.

Seriously, how is it that infants are suddenly suffering in droves from a condition one normally associates with 50 year old men with an addiction to spicy bratwurst? How could so many tiny little babies need acid-blocking medication, and can that POSSIBLY be good for them? Isn't it possible that some parents need to learn how to soothe a newborn a little better?

Ha ha ha ha ha. I'm funny when I'm all hubris-y. Ha.

Monday I took Sophia to the doctor and plopped her down for him to inspect. "She cries," I explained, "every night. During the day, too, but she stops sometimes during the day. But every night she cries and cries and cries. Sometimes until one or two in the morning." There was more, of course, including the eye-bulging way she wails after spitting up, the way she stops breathing sometimes when she spits up, the endless spitting up, but mostly there was the crying.

He agreed, it looked like reflux. There were things I hadn't connected, like her runny nose, and the arched back posture that is apparently classic in infants with reflux. He wrote me a scrip for Zantac, and that was that.

Monday night she had her first dose. The doctor had warned me not to expect results immediately, so we weren't surprised when she started her usual cry-fest a few hours later. Clay went to bed eventually, and I walked and bounced and...well, you know.

It wasn't actually a heavy crying night - just about 50% crying, I'd say. But Sophia just couldn't stay asleep. She'd drift off, red-rimmed eyes finally, mercifully closing, and then I'd put her down or lay down with her, and after a minute or two she'd wake up screaming. In retrospect I suspect that any posture other than upright allowed that stomach acid to leak back into her enraged esophagus...argh. I hate to think about how she was feeling.

About three in the morning, I thought I'd gotten her down for real. She was in her bed, and I crawled gratefully into my own. Soon her wail filled the room, and I crawled out again. Clay asked if I was okay, and I said sure, fine. She'd let me sleep for a whole seven minutes. I scooped her up, and as I headed for the door, a thought popped into my head.

I could throw her.

It wasn't that I WANTED to throw her, or that I thought I should. It just...occurred to me that I could. I stood there, at the threshold of bedroom, and pondered that thought. Then I turned around, and shook Clay awake. I handed Sophia to him.

"I'm sorry," I said, "I just can't anymore. Will you take her?"

And of course he did.

The next night, after her third dose, Sophia fell asleep a little after 8. With hardly any crying. She woke up a few times to nurse during the night, then fell back to sleep, emphatically. She slept until 8:30 the next morning. Ever since, things have just plain been better. She cries a million percent less than she did (although she's crying RIGHT NOW, as Clay walks her and tells her an inviting tale of sleep). She sleeps. At night.

And now all of you who have dealt with infant reflux can have a hearty chuckle at my expense because I, mother of four? KNEW NOT WHAT I SPOKE OF. I have been soundly pride-checked, and I promise (AGAIN) to stop judging others.

Now we're sleeping more, I've been humbled, and best of all...well, here's the best of all:


I've never been happier to be wrong.



Zantac also saved one of my children from a swift flight directly out the window. His case was maybe a little easier to spot, as he spent his entire first six weeks either screaming or projectile vomiting. Usually right into my bra. Ah, memories.

I'm glad she's feeling better, sweetie. Get some rest.


My son projectile vomited twice, which wasn't enough to clue me in (and he's not my first child, either). Mostly, he screamed his way through life, and it took him months to ever sleep away from my chest. Oh those were hard days. Finally, when he was six months old he had a stomach virus that left him inconsolable and completely unable to sleep. I took him in, my pediatrician gave us Zantac, and our entire lives changed. He laughed for the first time three days later.

I wish I wish I had spoken up earlier. And now - even at 11 months old, when most babies are already off of it - we do not forget Zantac. I can forget formula for him (honestly) and get away with it easier than I can leave the Zantac at home.

Here's to humility.


Been there. I remember one dark night, in the very wee hours of the morning, exhausted, frantic, and the baby just Wouldn't. Shut. Up.

I never understood how a mother could feel that way, until I was standing there in the middle of the room, sobbing with my baby, hating her for not sleeping, and starting to consider some very bad options to make her be quiet.

So glad Sophia's feeling better now, and that you are getting more sleep.


holy cow she's cute!


Sammy had it. And try as I might, I never could get him to swallow the Zantac. Ever.

I have mostly repressed my memories of his infancy. *shudder*

I'm so glad it's working for Sophia. And good Lord, Kira...she's GORGEOUS!


Oh, she is so pretty!!! What a happy little girl picture!


Wow, do you ever have a gorgeous baby girl!

I'm very glad the Zantac is working.



Camilla had good old-fashioned colic, and I read pages and pages about reflux because I was hoping she had it because it is treatable. So when Blaise started snorting and gurgling and got fussy and stopped sleeping more than an hour at a time, I remembered and diagnosed him immediately. Zantac has helped, immensely.

The bad news about reflux is that an average case peaks at four months, so it will probably keep getting worse for a while. I know you didn't ask for advice, but I hope it's okay to share that what has helped us (besides Zantac, we NEED that stuff) is elevating the head of Blaise's crib. He sleeps SO much better that way.

For me the saddest thing about reflux (besides seeing my baby in pain, of course) is not being able to nurse lying down. I loved that snuggle-time with Camilla, plus I am sooooo tired from sitting up every single time he needs to nurse in the night.

Good luck!

Oh, I forgot to mention: Sophia is ADORABLE!

Anna Marie

Reflux is a B.I.T.C.H. Both my kids had it - prevacid saved our sanities. So glad the Zantac is working for you! She's gorgeous.


I'm surprised no one has noticed the Velcro dress.That way we can just stick her to the wall. She seems to love it!

The One True Josh

Don't believe any of this, people. I'm sitting for Sophia right now, and she's a perfect little angel. Not a peep. Sleeping sweetly.

Linda Sherwood

Note that Josh's post was at 4:10 p.m. Let's see what he says at 4:10 a.m....

Sophia is gorgeous!


Your daughter is beautiful!


Elevating the crib was very helpful with our baby that had reflux. The docs also told us to hold hold her upright or place her in a swing our bouncy in an upright position for 40 minutes after nursing. I think our poor baby slept in her carseat for the first 5 months--snuggly and upright as you can get a newborn. Good luck.

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